The Nightmare of Marriage...Why??

salamu Alaikum guys..how's everyone? doing great i hope :)A topic that has always been widely discussed by EVERYONE in Egypt..men, women, youth, children..absolutely everyone, is the issue of marriage..people talk about all aspects of it, good and bad..and personally, some people just get on my nerves when they talk about it!People here are always encouraging you to get married and they're so happy when you do, that is, as long as you say you don't want to! However, once you do as much as imply that you see marriage as a good thing..all hell breaks loose! all of a sudden everyone starts digging up the worst memories they could to show you that marriage is hell on earth! if you're a girl, they tell you you won't be able to do anything for yourself anymore because you'll be totally devoted to your husband and all that..ok now WAIT A MINUTE! the idea of being devoted or devoting your time to your house and husband isn't as horrible as they make it sound..so why do they make it seem like you'll be on all fours waiting to slave on your husband's wishes and needs?!! That's such a crappy idea! I mean they won't die if every mother sits with her daughter before marriage and explains to her that although her time won't be completely her own like when she was a girl in her parents' house because now she's a part of someone's life, who depends on her in many aspects (and this in itself is something for every wife to be proud of), she will still be able to have fun, go out, do things for herself, and be a human being! would it kill them to do that? why do all the married women in the family find joy in making us girls feel like they're throwing themselves in the arms of a monster who knows no mercy?!And to the guys, his mother and all the women in his family have to convince him that the moment his wife feels that he loves her, she'll take out her broom and cast her spell to take over everything and suck as much money as she can from him! instead of telling him, like Islam teaches us, that the more you love your wife and treat her with mercy and respect, the more she will become devoted to you, and appreciate and admire you.i feel like what i wrote was totally unorganized..but that's because i just came home after spending two hours on the bus because of traffic and rain, and because i'm really fed up about that issue..i try to ignore it, but when it's directed at you it kinda gets you pissed off. i can't recall how many hours i've spent rationalizing with older people that if there's a problem with marriage these days, and no one is happy and everyone's getting divorced..then it's not marriage's fault, it's the people who aren't doing it right..basically my point of view is, who created this marriage? and called it Holy? it's our Creator, Allah, it's God who created it..my next question is, is it logical, or even possible, that He who created us and gave us everything we have, from the systems in our body that keep us alive, to the harmony in nature that makes it possible for us to live in it, is it possible that He would do all that for us, and then create something like marriage to torture us with? personally, it doesn't make sense to me. So if anyone's got a problem with marriage, it's not because the system of marriage is faulty..it's because we don't know how to live with it and implement it the right way..anyone got any thoughts on that? i'd like to know what you guys think..ok then..i'll go mope somewhere else now! i've got so much on my mind and i reaaally need some sleep!take care everyone :)